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Hello everyone! I am a 13 year old girl and I live in Ohio My Mom and Dad are one of the best people you could know but...I ended up getting pregnant and My mom and dad found out they were very mad at me but then they broke out in tears and they also made me cry to it was the hardest thing for me! They love me and I just made their life a disastor. All I should have done is kiss him I shouldn't of had sex but I just ges I wasn't thinkin about that! Now my boyfriend is really scared and he thinks that he has to blame himself for what we both did! well I need some help! I dont wanna give up the baby to adoption and i dont want to get an abotion cause i dont want the baby to be punish for somethin that was my fult! So what do I do from now! ↓
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| Name: Lisa | Date: May 6th, 2006 10:02 PM |
Hi, Rachel...
I am so sorry to hear about this difficult time you are going through right now! I also have to commend you for being open and up front with your parents about the pregnancy... That was the right thing to do! Don't keep blaming yourselves for what happened. Nothing can/will change the fact that you are now pregnant and you need to focus your attention on the baby and *you*! I beg you, please don't get an abortion...this baby deserves to live! Have you considered asking your parents if they would wish to raise, or help you raise, the baby? This is an option many young mothers feel is the best thing for an unplanned baby. The baby is well taken care of, you can still be a big part of his/her upbringing, but you have the help and support you need.
Otherwise, I know you don't really want to give your baby up for adoption, but have you researched adoption at all? There are many different options in the world of adoption that you might find you were comfortable with. For example, in a fully open adoption, you get to choose and meet the adoptive parents. After the birth, you will be able to recieve pictures, updates, letters and possibly an ongoing websight for you to keep up with your child's every develpment. The best part about a fully open adoption, you will get to have visits with your baby, how many depends on what you and the adoptive parent decide! You would always be the very special birth mommy who loved her child so much she chose to share them with another family.
My husband and I are a young, childless couple who have been married for nearly four years. We are hoping for an open adoption and would be more than happy to arrange for all the things I just mentioned so that you could remain a big part of your baby's life! We live in Wisconsin and love road trips so we would gladly travel to visit you from time to time. And you could come and visit us also, if you wanted to!
This is a difficult decision for you to make alone... Maybe you could sit down with your parents and possibly your boyfriend also, and discuss some of the things I mentioned. If you have any other questions regarding open adoption, you are more than welcome to contact me at any time! My email is flower2fotogirl@yahoo.com or you can post a reply to me here also.
I wish you all the very best! Stay strong! Your baby needs you more than ever right now!
Hugs, Lisa ↑ |
| Name: May | Date: May 23rd, 2006 10:42 PM |
| At 13 you should not have even been kissing either. Well,whats done is done so all you can really do is be glad you have your parents to help you and that boyfriend of yours will be needing to get a job as soon as possible so he can help support this baby. Also I hope you have learned a valuable lesson and will at least be getting on some birthcontrol after this baby arrives so you won't be expecting a 2nd too soon after the first.Good luck,you're going to need it! ↑ |
| Name: evee | Date: May 23rd, 2006 11:32 PM |
| lisa you seem like a very sweet and friendly person. how old are you? ↑ |
| Name: Lizzi | Date: May 23rd, 2006 11:45 PM |
| what does 13 and pregnant have to do with working moms crowd? ↑ |
| Name: meliswalt | Date: Jun 16th, 2006 8:40 PM |
Rachel, my prayers are with you and your family. I cant even begin to imagine how hard this is. Children are wonderfull, but please consider all your options, and im glad you chose not to have an abortion.. Every life deserves a chance, no matter how it came to be. I wish you luck. Remember to take care of your body, this is going to be very important considering you are still working on growing up yourself....physically and mentally, so its going to take some extra effort to keep you and that baby healty.
Take care,
Melissa ↑ |
| Name: whittney1 | Date: Jun 21st, 2006 12:43 PM |
| Rachael, Well first I have a couple questions. Is the babies daddy your boyfriend, just a friend or someone you just met? What is he to you? Depending on the answer different things can be done and could help you and your unborn baby out. Also have you went to see a doctor? Seeing a doctor is the most important thing you can do right now while making up your mind about what you are going to do. At the same time you will be keeping you and your unborn baby healthy. And the baby is no ones fault. It is something that happens and now you both need to make the best of it. Good luck and /i'll be talking/writing you. ↑ |
| Name: Nakiya | Date: Jun 23rd, 2006 2:52 PM |
| It's a little to late for people to be telling you what you shouldn't have been doing...Your already pregnant and all you can do is look ahead. Your probably still in middle school or something right...Your parents are probably willing to help you also... So all isn't lost. You should have your child and do home schooling or independent studies so you can have time with your child and get a job so you can help out around the house. I know your parents seem upset right now but once the baby comes they wont be able to keep there hands off of him/her. The first time i got pregnant i was 15. Yeah i know pretty bad. I had a abortion with out telling anyone i was even pregnant. I don't regret it because i would have been living on the streets and so would the baby. I'm not telling you that it was the right thing to do because it wasn't it's just how i felt at the time. I'm 18 now and i have my own apartment and it's not in the ghetto... I have a 5 month old baby and she has every thing she needs and wants. I just got off my behind the minute i found out i was pregnant and started working 75 hr weeks and goin to school part time. I had no help from any one...So if i can do it i know u can. ↑ |
| Name: aprillabbee | Date: Jul 9th, 2006 9:43 PM |
Rachael, Unfortunately because you acted as an adult and had sex you now need to make an adult decision about what to do. My suggestion is that you sit down with your parents, your boyfriend and maybe your pastor and if you don't attend church, then a counselor. This baby is going to be born and you only have a short time to make a decision. You must first think about the baby and try to imagine what the baby's life will be like if you keep it or give it up for adoption. There are other peoples feelings to consider other than your own. I hope this helps. I will pray for you and I want you to keep this in mind. You made a mistake but that does not mean that you cant have a positive outcome to the situation. Please take it easy on your mom and dad because I am sure they are hurting too. Let them know that you love them and if they love you they will help you through this. God bless you and take care.
April ↑ |
| Name: Lorraine | Date: Jul 31st, 2006 5:38 PM |
Hey rachael,
My daughter got pregnant at an early age. If you do keep the baby your parents will just love him. I was mad at my daughte and upset. I went to the dr. visits and once I saw the ulaturasound it was just amasing. I love hm so much. His name is Justin and he is 3 months now. I went through it with her. Mabye you Mom will go with you and change her mind and help you once she see that precious baby. I will keep you and your parents in my prayers. I hope it all works out. Just keep you keep you heart and mind on Jesus and he will work it all out. We all makes mistakes that is why he came so me can be forgiven. Prays Lorraine ↑ |
| Name: granny2be | Date: Aug 3rd, 2006 6:50 AM |
| My daughter is 14 and pregnant. Her father and I were upset at first but got over it. I have a feeling your parents will to. Talk to them as you have been. Ask for help getting a doctor and such, early prenatal care is important. We have come to accept our daughters pregnancy and have settled into the 'gonna be grandparents' mode. We have already told her we will help in raise the baby and will always be there for her and our grandchild. Have faith, give your parents time for it to sink in, and ask them for help making a VERY important decision in life. God bless you. ↑ |
| Name: sally24 | Date: Aug 6th, 2006 10:41 AM |
| Let alone kissing you shouldn't of been thinking of sex at that age and if you were did no one teach you about birth control? well thats beside the point first it is your choice what to do about the baby and only you can decide what is right for you , it sounds like your parents are supportive , but be warned that at 13 even though your body can get pregnant it is not physically ready to give birth and you may find yourself having a lot of complications in that department most girls in your situation end up with a c section becuase they cannot handle vaginal births. second the baby in no way will be punished if you give it up for adoption how can it be you gave it life and a couple who adopts it a prescious gift and that is a wonderfull thing , one of my cousions was adopted and it was a wonderfull exprience. Find a counsler you can talk to and sort out your emotions and the biggest thing is school try to at least finish highschool. Best of luck. ↑ |
| Name: t_marie | Date: Aug 6th, 2006 10:10 PM |
Hi Rachael, i fell pregnant when I was 17, I knew I was too young to be having a baby, and I knew that the possibilities of me and my boyfriend staying together were very slim, but I also knew in my heart that I could not live with myself if I had an abortion and I knew it would be to painful for me to give my baby up for adoption. I kept my daughter, my boyfriend and I broke up when she was 5 months old, up to that point everything was difficult, the stress, money, friendships, I was also studying and working part time. I let all these things get to and I feel I missed out on the first 5 months of her life as well as the pregnancy. I am now 22 years old, have a full time job, worked very hard to get where I am with grandparents babysitting, I sacrificed going out with friends, trips overseas, but my 4 and a half year old is a very happy and healthy girl and has everything she needs. Things do work out, but you will need a lot of emotional support, (among many other things) try your best to work things out with your parents.
Some advice I can give you is; take care of yourself, visit your doctor or LMC as often as possible. Always talk about how your feeling to someone you trust. Remember every decision you make from now on affects your little one as well, and most of all, enjoy the pregnancy, because that is when your bond with your beautiful baby begins.
I wish you and your little one the best of luck ↑ |
| Name: lizzi | Date: Jun 30th, 2007 8:03 PM |
haha i'm 13 lol and my name is lizzi XD.
well i would have a cee section (sp?) if i were you. ↑ |
| Name: selena | Date: Jul 16th, 2007 12:00 AM |
| dont worry honey ur right dont punish the baby, god gave u a blessing to carry this child.its not ur fault ur 13 ur going to have horny thoughts.the way i see it, keep this creation. ↑ |
| Name: 21mummyof3 | Date: Jul 22nd, 2007 5:43 PM |
| hi dont worry hunni it sounds like you have a very supported family and lots of help. ifell pregnant at 14yrs i am now 21 marries and have 3 wonderful children. just do what you think is best. i felt the same way about abortions that it isnt the childs fault it didnt get asked to be there. i still think the same. but im sure you will get alot of support keep your chin up and try not to worry. if you ever need to chat my msn is pinkshyloyallittlefriend@hotmail.co.uk. best of luk..xx ↑ |
| Name: Freedomgirl05 | Date: Aug 4th, 2007 9:34 AM |
Rachael,
You really need to tell your parents what you want to do. If you want to put your baby up for adoption then look them up in your area and find out what is best for you and your baby. Talk to the father of the baby and tell him what your intentions are. That is also his baby to. Have a family meeting with both sets of parents and talk everything out. Let me know what happens. ↑ |
| Name: uhh | Date: Aug 4th, 2007 1:30 PM |
| in case you all didnt see...this post is from 2006!! over a year ago.... so she had the baby and its a few months old by now, she hasnt posted back at all soo..... ↑ |
| Name: noodles | Date: Aug 13th, 2007 8:21 PM |
Rachael, I have some advice.
Don't put the baby up for adoption. It's not his/her fault. Just try to work something out and keep the adoption as a last resort.
And to be honest I think you shouldn't have became pregnant at the age of thirteen, because life will get harder. Teaching him/her how to talk instead of shopping, don't expect your parents to do everything, but lots of support and love, and I'm sure the baby will be worth it. ↑ |
| Name: rose | Date: Sep 4th, 2007 4:57 AM |
| i am 35 and i can't have any more kids and i would like another one. but u are so young you have a alot in front of you. give the baby a chance with someone that can't have children. you will have more when you are older and have one at your side that will help you and love you for who you are and not what happened in the past. ↑ |
| Name: jessicka | Date: Sep 4th, 2007 5:14 AM |
rachael,
im 13 too and i think im pregnant too. its not your fault. its what happens in life. im scared if i am or not and if i am i wouldnt know how to tell my parents but keep your head up. you made a kid. which is good to me because your letting life roll on and keep on going. it might have been a mistake but its your mistake. do what you wanna do and not what other people think. if you wanna keep the baby then you do that. dont get a abortion or give up it for adoption. i say keep it. im not really sure if this will get to you but i hope it will because its your life no one esles. ↑ |
| Name: Allie | Date: Sep 7th, 2007 6:19 PM |
| Oh dear. You have mad a hard life for yourself. Whatever you do it will be right. Can you give this baby what it needs. They need more the love they need food shelter I am a 1 year old and it is so much fun but so hard And I make 65,000 a year and it is still hard. It is ok to get an abotion you are a baby, You have your hole life don't have the baby. With love Allie ↑ |
| Name: Travis | Date: Sep 8th, 2007 1:49 AM |
your going to have to live with it... sorry to say... if you have any specific questions... (i am 13 also) then email me at
travis_cpls@msn.com ↑ |
| Name: amelia | Date: Sep 21st, 2007 12:21 AM |
| im pregant and im 13 years old i srewed up my life but i dont want 2 tell my parents wat do i do ↑ |
| Name: amy2 | Date: Sep 24th, 2007 5:38 PM |
| hi rachel, my name is amy, i know at the minute you cant see past this major problem. but things will work out it sounds like your parents love you very much. i had a baby at 15, he just turned 11, my parents were the same, shouting, crying, i felt like crap,felt like i had ruined every ones life including my own, your parents will prob be very let down for a good while mine were until my mam came in to the scan with me, thats when i relised how important my baby was not what people taught of me, you and your fam will get through this, you will have a beautiful baby who will be your best friend, dont get me wrong it will be hard work,but its worth it. stay strong dont let any one buly you into any decisions. its not the end of the world, your parents be more devastated if you had a terminal illness. and like me a few years down the line you will be giving advise too, and wondering what the fuss was about. x ↑ |
| Name: jessica | Date: Sep 29th, 2007 5:49 PM |
| i am 13 and i am pregnant what do i do .. how do i tell my mom and dad this ↑ |
| Name: Jazmin,18 | Date: Oct 9th, 2007 1:08 PM |
hey racheal
I knw how your feeling Im 3 months pregnant and I though about getting an abotion and adoption but Im so happy I didnt! I know it would of been the biggest mistake of my life. My parents were the same way but they look at it now and are there and happy for me!!!!!!!Me and my baby dad are having problems right now which lead us not to be togther. Its very hard for me and IM brearly 3 months and am already going though all this stress. Im always crying but at the end of the day I relize that I dont need him in my life.I got my parents,friends,and family!
Im happy i decided to keep my baby cuz I know Im a try to be the best mom I could be.Its amazing having a baby grow in you and have a new life develope in you.When you go hear the baby's heart beat its the most amazing thing in the world,trust me it will be hard,but in the end it will all be wroth it in the end.
There are penlty of girls out there in you postion as well and most of the girls that do end up doing this like this regret it later on in life.Life is to wonderfull to give up and its not right for you to distroy such a beatiful thing you have created.Most people would kill to have a baby in there life to support,to love,to cherish,and to be there for.So if you decide to give up your baby for adoption,just really think about it.
NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE SAYS,WHAT THEY THINK, this is your baby not theres and you need to be there for him/her.They need you,and you need them.Be a great parent like your mom and dad,They are your parents and they will love you no matter what,and of course they're going to be there for you and your kid, you just go to give it some time.Thing will work out in the end.I promise you,cause Im going though the same thing and I know me and my baby will be ok...........So please take care and think wisely............................
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With
much Respect,
Jazmin ↑ |
| Name: IRMA | Date: Oct 12th, 2007 8:08 PM |
| Ey WAtz up WELL. IAM PREGENT AND i AM ONLy 13 ..MY BOYFRiEND WANT TO HAVE THE BABY BUT I DONT WANAN HAVE..I WANN ABORT..NOW MY PARENTS FOUND OUT ..YOU KNOW..THEY KINDA GO MAD.. BUT IT JUST DAT I DONT WANN HAVE I N MY BOYFRIEND DOES N HIS MOM DOES TOO I LOVE HIM AND EVEYTHING..BUT I JUST DONT WANN HAVE IT I JUST TOPO YOUNG AND HE IS TOO HE IS ONLY 17 YEARLS OLD.BUT I WANN ABORT BUT I KINDA SCARED I DONT REALLY KNOW WAT TO DO..ABOUT IT..I JUST DONT WANNA HAVE iT...I WNAN TAKE THE PILS BUT THEy SAY IT KiNDA DANGERSGOUS WAT SHOULD I DO!!!!!!PLZ HELP ↑ |
| Name: Laurar | Date: Oct 13th, 2007 4:00 PM |
Irma,
i don't blame you, but instead of having an abortion give the baby up for adoption. I now three families that would love to have a baby and maybe they would even let you see it if you wanted to where do you live? ↑ |
| Name: neta | Date: Oct 14th, 2007 3:28 PM |
| just ask your parents could they help you while you @ school and come home do your homework and take full responsibility the rest of the night ↑ |
| Name: Jennifer | Date: Oct 30th, 2007 2:52 PM |
| well the first thing you have to do is look in side you and see what YOU want to do and what you feel is best for you. Its to late to blame anyone there is a baby now. You not a child anymore. Sex is great but there is alot that comes along with it, Once you made that deci you became an adult. What ever choice you make will change your life for the rest of your life. list the pros and cons of this situation. Your not gonna die, nor will your life end if you have this baby, but alot will change and alot almost everyting will be hard. But as an adult and a mom those are the things you go through. I am 25 and a mom of 2 and its HARD. trhere is no suchthing as you, anymore its all about the baby. but at the end of the day its worth it. If you deci not to have the baby, you can go to school, go out and be a kid but can you live with that decsi. It all depends on you. remember abortion is not a form of brth control. What ever you decide it has to feel right to YOU. Good luck ↑ |
| Name: Lizzie | Date: Nov 9th, 2007 6:14 AM |
| Im 13 and i'm six months pregnant. The hardest thing for me was telling my parents, but i wouldn't give my unborn baby's live for anything in the world and i wouldn't just ship him off to another family. You just have to be prepared for everything and just do the best you can. This is your child so do what you wanna do. You wanna keep your baby then you keep. Its your child and no one can take that away from you. If you decide to keep your baby just try to be the best mother you can. ↑ |
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