I am a stay at home mom with a 12 year old and a 3 year old. I am 6 1/2 months pregnant and feel like my husband does not appreciat me at all.
Today we had a conversation about how I need to get a job to bring some money into the house. I tried to explain that being pregnant makes it difficult to get hired anywhere but he does not seem to believe me. If I could work at home I would but I have not been able to find any at home work either.
My husband works alot and if I had an outside the home job we would have to put our 3 year old in day care and the baby would join her when he is born. I tried to tell him that would be expensive but he just wants me to work.
If anyone knows of a work at home job or somewhere I can get some information about how much a stay at home parent saves money it would be great.
Any thoughts on what I can tell my husband to help him understand what all I do would be helpful too. ↓
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| Name: winnmom | Date: Nov 20th, 2008 12:31 PM |
Hello and welcome,
First off I am sorry that you are not feeling appreciated, that would be a hard position to be in.
My suggest would be , for maybe you to take children in for childcare? this way you are homewith your babes, you cut out the cost of childcare, and you help another working family in the process, and make some $$$ ↑ |
| Name: Joeys_Mam | Date: Nov 20th, 2008 6:12 PM |
| You're just about to give birth and will have a newborn to care for as well as your 3 year old. I'd understand hubby wanting you to work if you weren't pregnant right now, but you are. Unless you can't make ends meet on his income, then tell him there's no way you can work until baby is at least 6 months - 1 year old. ↑ |
| Name: bmes | Date: Nov 21st, 2008 11:38 AM |
i understand that the economy is the total shits right now, and for most families, things are pretty tight money wise. but honestly, he can't expect you to go out and work when you're over 6 months pregnant....not to mention, you right, most people won't want to hire someone knowing they'll be gone in a couple months again and then they'll have to hire someone else all over again.
that's a good idea winn...a daycare....if you can handle it of course. i know for me, i don't think i could run a daycare AND take care of my newborn. but that's just me....everyone has different levels of what they can handle. lol...
are you good at food prep at all? you could apply to privately owned catering companies, and be like an on-call person whenever they need extra help with prep work for a big function. there should be lots of that going on soon with xmas coming up and people having xmas parties and stuff. every now and then i do that for a company in town here and i get paid anywhere from 15-20 an hour. and lots of the prep you could do sitting on a chair....especially if it's desserts, or just plating food trays.
just a thought...anyways...good luck ↑ |
| Name: bmes | Date: Nov 21st, 2008 11:42 AM |
| the good thing about the catering thing is that it would be "on-call", not a full time job....so if they phone for your help, you have time to arrange a babysitter (or your 12 year old) for just that one day, or sometimes two days....then they might not phone you for another couple/few weeks....but it's decent pay so technically you could get like 300 dollars in just a couple days. not too bad if you're looking for just a little extra cash. ↑ |
| Name: caspins | Date: Nov 21st, 2008 10:50 PM |
| Thank you all so much for your input. I am glad that you all pretty much agree with me feeling like I cant have a real out of the home job right now. I was starting to think I was being a wuss. You all had some great ideas. I have considered starting an at home preschool since I will be working with my 3 year old anyway. I just do not know how tiring that will actually be with an infant and additional children. ↑ |
| Name: Dawn0027 | Date: Dec 1st, 2008 12:53 AM |
Hi caspins
I am really sorry to hear about how your husband is treating you at the moment. I think men for the most part just can not truly accept how hard being pregnant is.
I am also a stay at home mom, and like you, I really needed to make some extra money for my family. The child care at home sounds like a great idea, and if you go that route, then I wish you all the luck and success in the world, but if you decide not to do that, then maybe you would be interested in doing work from home on the computer.
I do not think that the forum rules allow me to tell you much about what I do to earn money online, but hopefully it should be okay to post a link to my blog so you can go and have a look for yourself if you would like to.
Oh, and please let me clarify that you will most likely will not earn as much as you would if you had a nine to five job, but at least this way you may be able to say home with your kids, and still bring in enough to pay an utility bill or two. Good luck in what ever road you choose :)
~Dawn
dollarsbydawn.blogspot.com ↑ |
| Name: jouwhoo | Date: Dec 1st, 2008 2:34 PM |
Hi, caspins. I, too am in your situation, except that my husband doesn't mind either way if I work or stay at home. I have an 8-, 6-, 2-year-old, and 4-month-old. If I had to pay for daycare, I would be working for free. Work at home scemes are nothing but scams---I've tried them all. I would suggest babysitting for extra money. Look into your state department for help. A lot of times, if you take the necessary classes that they offer, they will help pay for things that you need to start a daycare.
Unfortunately, men just don't seem to understand all that we do, and they never will. Because when it comes time for them to stay at home with the kids, they leave the house a wreck, don't really take care of the kids, etc. ↑ |
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