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Anyone besides me who still believes in spanking? I was spanked as a kid (usually on the bare butt with a hairbrush or paddle), as were all my siblings and cousins, and I don't know why some people are so touchy about it these days. ↓
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| Name: atomic snowflake | Date: Jan 17th, 2007 7:25 AM |
| It's best not to spank. It might make parents feel momentarily better, but it just teaches children that aggression is normal. ↑ |
| Name: mel211985 | Date: Jan 17th, 2007 8:56 AM |
| i try not to hit my daughter she gets 3 firm warnings and if that dont work i remove something off her like no chocolate or the takeaway i buy once a week if that dont work and she is still playing up she gets alight tap on the back of the hand or the back of the leg but i agree with atomic snowflake i do believe that it makes kids think that violence and aggression is a normal part of life but it is down to parents desgression. ↑ |
| Name: bethxxx | Date: Jan 17th, 2007 11:27 AM |
| when i grew up ((well at 17 i still am but...)) my dad used to smack us if we did something bad and what i did was go do it again so it didnt teach me a lesson and i wouldnt hit my child because in my eyes its not the way to teach your child how to act a simple sturn NO would do as long as he knew he was doing something wrong.then he would know not to do it again ! ↑ |
| Name: Dannyle | Date: Jan 17th, 2007 4:03 PM |
| I never looked at getting spanked as aggression, I looked at it as punishment. It's not aggressive when a cop arrests somebody, even if he uses force. It's not aggressive when a judge sends someone to jail. Why is it aggression for a parent to spank their child, if they do it in a controlled way? ↑ |
| Name: Dannyle | Date: Jan 17th, 2007 4:07 PM |
| Why is it aggression though? When I got spanked I never thought of it as aggression. When a cop arrests a criminal it's not aggression, even if he uses force. When a judge sentences someone to jail it's not aggression. So why is spanking your own child called aggression, it you're doing it for a good reason? ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Jan 17th, 2007 5:23 PM |
| spare the rod spoil the child. I can tell you that I can prob count on one hand how many times I have had to spank my son, but I am not aganist it at all. I know there is much debate, but there is a difference between getting the rod (what my parents used to call a spanking) and abuse. It was only one or two swats on the but and never out of anger. They didn't stand there screaming at us and beating the crap out of us. I believe that when children are young that is how you have to teach then what is very bad or dangerous. Example you 3 year old runs into teh middle of the street. what do you think he understand and remember better? you saying no don't do that you will get hit by a car it is dangerous of the sting form the spank on his bottom because he went into the street and you tell him I spanked you for going past this line. he will remember the pain of the spanking and not want to do it again. Those are situations where I think spanking should come into play. when kids get older then it is better to punish them in different ways. ↑ |
| Name: marija | Date: Jan 17th, 2007 5:24 PM |
i dont see it as teaching aggression...i have seen kids that are bought up in a "non-spanking" environment...go up and whack other kids...where did they learn it??
Were they just born wankers?!....LOL ↑ |
| Name: Lizzi | Date: Jan 18th, 2007 8:51 AM |
| I believe it does wonders to spank. In my own families and other relatives experiences as well as friends,the kids who were spanked turned out better mannored and better behaved but the kids who were not spanked were more wild, ,rude,immature,sassy brats. ↑ |
| Name: winnmom | Date: Jan 18th, 2007 12:04 PM |
Yes I have spanked my children.....as a last resort.......
Our Pastor explained it like this.( more detailed though)......when a child touches a hot stove it send a message to the brain.........they do not do this again.....same goes for a spank..........
I have only spanked a couple of times........It really has not come down to that often......If spanking is used as a normal thing......the same effect is not there.....
It is much beeter to use different means .......
My daughter at 2 and a half, ran out into the road......I spanked her.......she never did this again......... ↑ |
| Name: Lizzi | Date: Jan 18th, 2007 2:31 PM |
| I can probably count on both hands the number of times i resorted to spanking my son. The last time was about 2 years ago. (He is 15 now) I believe as long as you are spanking them appropriately and not beating them irrationally it helps to shape them into better people. ↑ |
| Name: Lizzi | Date: Jan 18th, 2007 2:36 PM |
| When I spanked him 2 years ago it was because his cousin was here ,(she is 4 years younger than him),and they were playing a game on the playstation with only one controller and he was hogging it and not letting her have her fair turn so I told him to give it to her and he looked right at her and threw it at her as hard as he could and it hit her right in the head! for me THAT was perfect cause for an ass whipping! ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Jan 18th, 2007 4:46 PM |
| I am with you 100% lizzi. Like I said spanking are few and far between, but even at 9yrs my son know that he could get a spanking. He is a very good and well mannered boy so it does not need to happen, but I also know that he did not get that way on his own. It happened because I was firm yet loving with him form day one. even when everyone that he was "just a baby and to young to be punished" when he was 1.5-2yrs old. I say teach good behavior young and they will keep it. It makes me sick to see the way that some some kids talk to and treat their parents. I think I would pass out if my son ever talked to me with disrespect. ↑ |
| Name: Sardie | Date: Jan 18th, 2007 4:56 PM |
| Name: Sunshine1 | Date: Jan 29th, 2007 5:42 AM |
| I was whacked around pretty often as a child for normal kid stuff...running in the house, not picking up toys, etc. It got so it meant absolutely nothing to me to be spanked. I believe you should only spank a child to teach an IMPORTANT lesson. My son has been spanked twice. Once for darting in front of a car and once for playing with the knobs on the stove. He is 19 now and all I have to say is "I am disappointed in your behavior". Believe me that is much more effective than a slap. ↑ |
| Name: tubbybubble | Date: Jan 29th, 2007 9:52 AM |
| i spank my child....when i was in school and working my child got away with murder...i know that sounds bad...but i was SSOOO busy. when i started staying home with him i became better in controlling him. now, i don't BEAT him but i warn him first, if that don't work i pop him and sit him in time out. everyone has their own opinions about it. my son isn't mean and aggresive towards anything. i started popping him when he started crawling...my outlook on it was..if he was able to go around and get into things then he was old enough to to learn what the word "no" meant. everyone has their own parenting style. ↑ |
| Name: MIZZBRANDISS | Date: Jan 29th, 2007 12:32 PM |
| i believe in spankings but i try not to do it because there are other ways of going around by punishment. also i would feel sooo bad after i would hold him and apologize and i really just can not do it. ↑ |
| Name: Lizzi | Date: Jan 29th, 2007 2:25 PM |
| You are exactly right jillw. ↑ |
| Name: Fern | Date: Jul 28th, 2007 8:20 AM |
| im 17 and my dad still gives me a spanking when he thinks I need it, he doest on my barebottom, I don't like getting a spanking but I understand why dad spanks me, he is trying to make me a better woman, I got one this morning because I came in past my curfew last night my rear is so sore, I got it with a hairbrush ↑ |
| Name: Jason | Date: Aug 30th, 2007 11:13 PM |
| I still spank my 17 year old daughter. ↑ |
| Name: Sara | Date: Aug 31st, 2007 6:39 AM |
| im 17 and I still get spanked dad puts me oer his kness and takes down my panties and spanks me with a hairbrush, I got one saturday night for comming in past my curfew ↑ |
| Name: 19mummy2b | Date: Sep 11th, 2007 9:46 AM |
| i am 19 and was only really smacked if i done something that put me or others in danger that i knew was wrong i am pregnant with my first child due in nov and she wil be smacked for the same sorts of things, im fine i love my parents i dont consider myself abused or anything of the sort. ↑ |
| Name: charley_D | Date: Sep 11th, 2007 10:32 AM |
| I have custody of my 13yr. old granddaughter becauase her mom,my daughter-in-law,is serving time in prison.The 13yr.old is very rebelious and the only way i can get her attention is by putting her over my knee,pulling her panties down,and spanking her till she calms down.I have to do this two or three times a week.She is as sweet as can be after i hold her when im done. ↑ |
| Name: Judge.Judy | Date: Sep 11th, 2007 11:30 AM |
| Well Charley you sure know how to raise children! Maybe it is your discipline methods that contributed to your daughter being in prison at the moment. Keep it up and the granddaughter is sure to follow in her mom's steps! ↑ |
| Name: cherisalorraine | Date: Sep 11th, 2007 7:08 PM |
give it up jj you are the most negative, uppity, annoying person on the whole site. Did you decide to be mean to other people because no one on the stay at home mom forum takes you seriously. EVIL EVIL EVIL
HATER HATER HATER MEAN MEAN MEAN NASTY NASTY NASTY ↑ |
| Name: irish Amy | Date: Sep 12th, 2007 4:23 PM |
| 13 years old and you spank her bare bottom?????? Im sorry but i would'nt humiliate my 6 yr old by doing that!!!!!!!! and jason??????????? wtf?????? your 17 yr old???????? ↑ |
| Name: A Dad | Date: Sep 22nd, 2007 2:51 PM |
| I have spanked my 2 girls since they were young, they are teens now 14 and 17 and I stll spank them, not as much as before but they keep telling me none of their friends get spanked anymore, I should tell you i do it on their barebottoms, what I want to know is should I stop spanking them or just do it on their panties. ↑ |
| Name: Leah | Date: Sep 24th, 2007 1:13 AM |
| I don't like like when my boyfriend has to spank his daughter. But she has to learn to respect her daddy. ↑ |
| Name: loveiseverywhere | Date: Sep 24th, 2007 4:04 AM |
totally against it here
In my experience, lessons are learned quicker with a relevant consequence... repeated every time without fail. ↑ |
| Name: To a dad | Date: Sep 27th, 2007 6:48 AM |
| you can spank your girls till they are 18, but don't do it on their barebottoms, I stoped spanking my children on the bare when they srted to get pubic hairs ↑ |
| Name: Sarah | Date: Nov 29th, 2007 8:39 AM |
| im 18 and my dad still punishs me by giveing me a spanking, he put me over his knees and he takes my panties down, I think im to old for a panties down spanking don't you. ↑ |
| Name: cjsims | Date: Dec 30th, 2007 12:17 AM |
| to the teenagers and their parents who still get spanked or spank on bare butts, that should be stopped. Sarah, when you are on your period, how does that spanking work? And frankly, your dad sounds like a freak, if he wants to see his adult daughers butt. ↑ |
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