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I'm a widowed parent & need advice? ↓
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| Name: Beth | Date: Feb 10th, 2006 5:07 PM |
| Just love your son. Being gay is not the end of the world. I don't believe your son chose to be gay, I think it's just who he is. If you love him and show him support he'll be a stronger, better person for it. Don't feel like you did anything wrong -- you did not "make" your son gay. Let him know that you don't think less of him because of his orientation. It's not easy to come out you think you're letting everyone down especially mom. Again, just love him and let him know you are there for him. Also, if you are uncomfortable with seeing your son with a man, let him know that you will need time to adjust. There is nothing wrong with you asking for a little respect if you're willing to do the same. Hope I helped. Good Luck and remember unconditional love is just that -- unconditional. ↑ |
| Name: Justin Barton | Date: Mar 4th, 2006 5:21 PM |
| I'm gay! It's alright to be gay...don't worry=) ↑ |
| Name: Anonomous | Date: Mar 5th, 2006 1:41 PM |
| Im Bisexual and i like some men lol Its ok dont worry to much about him hes a big boy now.. ↑ |
| Name: William | Date: Mar 20th, 2006 10:43 PM |
| Jim, I'm gay and have struggled for years over coming out to my parents. Much of the struggle has to do with believing that I will alientate myself from family. To me, that would be terrible. However, I also know that being gay, whether biological or not, is very real and is a part of me that I cannot change. It is an issue that potentially destroys family relationships. I expect that for many children the fear of outing themselves to their parents is too much. For others, it's an assertion of self expression. There are as many emotions as there are individuals. I believe that whether you accept your son's sexual orientation now, or later, you will eventually accept it. At the end of the day, it is so important to have an unconditional friendship with your children. Enjoy your son and his life. Both of you will be the better for it. ↑ |
| Name: rhonda | Date: Apr 18th, 2006 12:29 AM |
| Name: rhonda | Date: Apr 18th, 2006 1:19 AM |
| well i am hell i don;t know ↑ |
| Name: diana | Date: Apr 24th, 2006 4:23 PM |
| I agree he is still your son. love him while you have him. i am glad he felt he could come to you. ↑ |
| Name: marie | Date: Apr 24th, 2006 6:51 PM |
| hello all i can say is there is nothing to be ashamed off. If he is happy thats all that matters. ↑ |
| Name: D C | Date: May 2nd, 2006 12:58 AM |
| Being gay myself, I can say that it is not a choice. Do the right thing and just love him for who he is. And gay sons are useful to have around! Think of the advice he can give when your decorating your house or need to buy a new outfit! ↑ |
| Name: Lynne n | Date: May 12th, 2006 4:00 PM |
| As long as your son is happy you should be to just go with the flow,dont worry! ↑ |
| Name: sally | Date: May 13th, 2006 1:09 AM |
| Just support him and be there for him. your lucky he came out and told you. he must really trust you therefore you have done a really good job on raising him. well done! ↑ |
| Name: jessica. | Date: May 13th, 2006 3:19 PM |
My friend andre being gay since he was little kid but I support him 100%. I think gay peoples are friendly sometimes because I love how gay peoples walk like girl or talk like girl but most of gay ppls don't do that but some! Hey...if anybody confuese about being gay or not.... Because I know what " gay" is because I have friends who are gay and proud to be gay.
You can talk to me anytime if you want to....here my e-mail is jb1000@tmail.com
Aol sn is nicejessic ↑ |
| Name: me | Date: May 17th, 2006 3:45 PM |
| Welp,you either accept it or wish your son well and goodbye. ↑ |
| Name: AHH | Date: Jun 8th, 2006 11:33 AM |
| WATCH OUT FANNYS ( ME ) ABOUT !!! ↑ |
| Name: mandymr25 | Date: Jun 10th, 2006 9:14 PM |
| Number 1, first and foremost, you must still love your son. This does not change anything. My sister came out to my parents about 10 years ago. Although it was hard for them to accept at first, they always told her they loved her no matter what. Number 2, if this is a religious issue, think of this. No sin is greater in God's eyes. Every sin is considered equal. From murder to lies to sex, each sin is the same. The only other thing I can tell you is if you think this is hard on you, think about how hard this must be on your son. Remember....love him, he's still the son you've always wanted, just a bit changed. Keep that line of communication open, once you lose that, you are liable to lose your son as well. ↑ |
| Name: nicole jones | Date: Jun 18th, 2006 8:23 PM |
| I think that it isn't as big of an issue as people make it out to be. Nowadays it's a lot more accepted than you would think. If you can just think about your sons happiness, and try not to get to upset about it then everything should be fine. Being gay isn't an easy life (my best friend is gay), but it definitly isn't the end of the world. ↑ |
| Name: Ralph | Date: Jun 22nd, 2006 9:18 AM |
| Are you sure he is gay? Sometimes kids can be confused. Has he ever had a girfriend? Are there any organizations or groups to get help for this. It seems like young kids who think they may be gay get accepted more for being gay rather than getting advice for problems they may have. It may be easier for a kid to be gay rather than to try to be straight. He may not be accepted by his peers for thinking he is gay whereas the gay guys are ready to accept him. There is alot of pressure there. Make sure he is gay first before you decide to automatically just accept it. Offer him help in a loving way. He may have low self esteem and not feel adequate enough for a girl. No matter what the outcome.. You can never not love your child. If he is gay, you will have to love him even more because he will need your support for this. He will need people on his side of the ring not on the opposing side. ↑ |
| Name: S.M.B. | Date: Jun 22nd, 2006 9:54 AM |
| Being gay isn't a state of confusion, nobody chooses to be gay, straight, etc. It has nothing to do with how you are raised, if youre gay, youre gay. It doesn't make him less of a man. Just imagine how nasty this cruel, ignorant world is and that your son needs your support right now. I think it's such a shock to parents because we all expect certain things and lifestyles for our children, BUT... it doesn't turn out the way we want it! So don't be selfish and turn your back, this isn't his decision, this is who he is. People come in all different colors, sizes, personalities, we all need to accept and respect. My grandmother has 6 children, my aunt is gay, she is no different then anyone else in my family. Be strong for him, it's bad enough that he has to deal with the rest of the world. ↑ |
| Name: ralph | Date: Jun 22nd, 2006 12:15 PM |
| I feel it may be easier for some kid to be gay than straight because he may not have enough confidence in himself to get a girl. Once he sees how wonderful the females are he might reconsider... ↑ |
| Name: steph | Date: Jun 26th, 2006 1:14 PM |
| i am 14 and i thinck tat your son is the same person that he he has all ways been and it dose not matter ↑ |
| Name: S.M.B. | Date: Jun 26th, 2006 1:48 PM |
| To: Ralph: If someone is gay, that person is GAY, seeing a beautiful lady isn't going to change his mind, thats silly. thats like dangling a juicy steak in a vegatarians face!! I have a few gay friends and they are no different than any other human being ↑ |
| Name: ralph | Date: Jun 27th, 2006 1:20 PM |
being gay is different. It is different from me. I am a heterosexual. Please excuse my ignorance...I have been watching from the sidelines the ongoing issues about gay people but have not really cared much because it really did not affect me that much. trust me when I say that I WANT TO UNDERSTAND! I could never hate another person because of this or any other indifference. I feel that heteros just have a hard time understanding anything different from them. DIFFERENT is DIFFERENT and the gay community has to respect that just like we have to respect the gay community. I want to understand but it is hard...I just don't get it. I love and respect all people, I just don't understand them all. People need to love first and make solutions and not problems.
I love and respect my wife too but I don't understand women...LOL
The world is wonderful.... ↑ |
| Name: rbfunz | Date: Jun 30th, 2006 7:33 PM |
| i have a son who is gay-hes a sweatheart and precious and I love him to death. I worry that he will have a tougher time in life from the gay-bashers but aside from that he is who he is and I'm happy for him and want him to know how much love we have for him - his biggest problem I think will be able to love himself - don't make it tougher for him than it already probably is! ↑ |
| Name: colby | Date: Jul 10th, 2006 5:47 PM |
| I'm gay to and just let your kid date dont let him have sex ↑ |
| Name: kim | Date: Jul 13th, 2006 5:04 PM |
| Name: sare | Date: Jul 13th, 2006 5:11 PM |
| Is your son a good person, do u love him and he love you? If he has love in his heart, is a decent human and productive in this world u have nothing to worry about ↑ |
| Name: Avie | Date: Jul 21st, 2006 1:54 PM |
| My brother is gay and when my mother found she tried to beat the gay out of him and when he told that he had hiv she said it was his fault for being thers nothing wrong with being gay just support him and show you love hime don't shun him for who he is h's still your son my brother has so much anger cause though my mother loved she couldn't get over herself to consider his feelings and now he's dying and its almost to late for her and him when she found he had full blown aids was when she realized that she was wrong just be his loving mother like you always been and you'll both be fine ↑ |
| Name: unidenified | Date: Aug 2nd, 2006 12:39 AM |
| just let him be tell me the whole story i can untangle some knots ↑ |
| Name: Marcella | Date: Aug 2nd, 2006 1:38 AM |
| i have some gay friends, they are very nice, supportive and good people. Just like other people. There's nothing wrong with being gay, it;s just a lifestyle choice. He just has to be responsible about his relationships. how old is he? ↑ |
| Name: eric | Date: Aug 22nd, 2006 12:43 PM |
yes but keep him away from friends who are smaller and less powerful than him, he may rape them, that happened to me, he tied me up and gave me anal sex, it was so horrific and terrifying he seemed to like it the more i screemed
dont let that happen to him ↑ |
| Name: to avie | Date: Aug 22nd, 2006 1:33 PM |
| im sorry your brother had to go thro all the spankings, im 21 and last year i told my parents i was gay there reaction was to take me over there knee and spank me everytime i brought it up i got spanked i stayed there for a couple of weeks and i got spanked almost every day from my dad there is something beeing 21 and getting spanked for something you can't helpthank you for letting me get this off my chest ↑ |
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