Hi,
just wondering if there is anyone out there in a similiar situation as I'm about to be in. My gay best friend and I are planning on having a baby together. I want to make sure we are smart about this, as I know there is a lot for us to figure out. Would love to hear from someone who has already done this and can give us questions that we need to be thinking about.
Thanks so much,
Sara ↓
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| Name: Nela | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 12:48 AM |
| I'm noy about to have a baby by my bestfriend, but I am looking for him. He was the best gay friend I'd ever had. So, if your out there Nick, give me a call. It's the same number. I luv ya. ↑ |
| Name: sally24 | Date: Aug 4th, 2006 10:00 AM |
| Well the first thing you need to look at is what is going to happen down the road when you decide to date again and perhaps even find yourself wanting to get married or live in a relationship with someone. How is it going to be when your best freind gets to be daddy 24/7 and know has to be daddy on the weekend plus share someone else , plus the effect it will have on the child , children don't understand marriege and relationships till they are older so this child will see you as mommy and your freind as daddy and when a third guy enters the picture for ethier of you , the child goes through much of the same emotions as a divorce, other than that it can be a wonderfull gift , this is the biggest thing you need to discuss and even with a concrete plan you won't know how you feel until this happens , ↑ |
| Name: Danielle Abker | Date: Apr 9th, 2007 11:54 PM |
| Hi there, I was just searching around the net for this exact topic and was wondering if you had gone through with it yet. I am planning a very similar pregnancy and am excited to do so. As you asked in your forum, I too have been looking for anything that I have not yet touched base with. ↑ |
| Name: Rebecca | Date: May 21st, 2008 7:55 AM |
Hi.
I havent yet done this but me and my gay best friend have just started to talk about this being an option so any if you could pass on any information id be greatful.
Thanks,Rebecca. ↑ |
| Name: ginger | Date: Jun 16th, 2008 2:31 AM |
| hi....not a lot of advice to give...I am in the same boat. It will be a couple years yet, but yes my gay best friend and i will be having a baby...its hard to know what all needs to be discussed...... ↑ |
| Name: ginger | Date: Jun 16th, 2008 2:34 AM |
i think my biggest issues are how to balance our lifestyle and time with our child? Considering how much he wants to be invoved is my biggest concern. Is he going to play the rols of daddy or is a sperm donor? etc....
any advice shared is appreciated... ↑ |
| Name: Helen Acton | Date: Jul 22nd, 2008 4:56 PM |
Hi Sara
I haven't done this myself, but I am currently writing a paper on women who have. I'd be really grateful if you would kindly take a look at my web page at http://web.mac.com/helen.a
cton/Research/Welcome.html
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It would be great to hear from you, and good luck!
Helen ↑ |
| Name: Helen Acton | Date: Jul 22nd, 2008 4:58 PM |
Hi Sara
I haven't done this myself, but I am currently writing a paper on women who have. I'd be really grateful if you would kindly take a look at my web page at
http://web.mac.com/helen.acton
/Research/Welcome.html
It
would be great to hear from you, and good luck!
Helen ↑ |
| Name: shynubian | Date: Aug 17th, 2008 8:08 AM |
| anyone interested in a surogate in the DC Metro area, contact me ludia04@hotmail.com ↑ |
| Name: phyllis | Date: Oct 31st, 2008 4:12 PM |
| My gay best friend has proposed that we have a baby. I thought that it was just because I wasan available child bearing age woman. But that was a coulple of years ago. Now he explains that he wants me to be the mother of his kid. I know that the child will have a beautifully loving family between the 2 of us. But it is a thought as to what will we do if someone comes along. Our commitment level to this child and the life of this child has to be ulimate. I'm still thinking. I feel like Will &Grace. ↑ |
| Name: stef | Date: Oct 31st, 2008 11:13 PM |
| i'm thinking of having a baby with my gay bff, but wold love to get advice from someone that has done it. i wonder how much it costs to get pregnant, how to share parenting duties, how to deal with other relationships for both of us. i know we don't plan to live together, but i feel like i need some help. i have a pretty intense career and would like to share the financial and emotional responsibilities, and as a 39 yr old woman fresh out of a 4 yr relationship i feel like having a child with my dearest friend is the most realistic option. i don't mean to sound so logistical, but i know that i'd be a great mother and have always dreamt of having a baby. i worry that if i wait for the perfect man it will be too late. being a rebel by nature i also like the idea of have an alternate family and feel like we could easily work around any societal pressure. any thoughts/info/honesty would be be very appreciated. ↑ |
| Name: Danielle | Date: Dec 14th, 2008 3:54 PM |
| Hello, I posted a note back in 07 and would love to report that my daughter, friend and myself are all doing wonderful. I am willing to answer questions if you have any. The biggest thing I have to say is do it for the love of each other and for the love of your newborn. If you are serious, just start talking about the setup and you will know if it is right. As for the actual getting pregnant; Conception.com works great and is certainly less than in a clinic. Life is wonderful and I am so happy that I followed through. Good luck to all of you. ↑ |
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