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I'm 15 and I'm 2 months pregnant.My boyfriend and I knew it was gone happen sooner or later but I was expecting later.He wants to keep the baby but I don't.The truth is I can't handle the responsibility.He says he won't let me put HIS first born up for adoption and that he'll take me to court but I just laugh at him when he says that.I think he would be a good father bacause he already is taking care of me because I don't have a mother nor father but I don't think I could be a good mother at 15 and I can't just leave my baby with him.i rather just give it up for open adoption.That way I KNOW my baby will have a good stable home. ↓
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| Name: Jmarie | Date: Sep 27th, 2006 1:05 AM |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Sep 27th, 2006 1:12 AM |
| Jmarie...that is alot to be thinking about at such a young age. If you decide that adoption is what you think you should do, there are alot of wonderful families on this board. I'f you want to talk, I would be more than happy to. I'm not looking to adopt, so you wouldn' t have to worry about someone trying to convince you to do anything ↑ |
| Name: Carolyn | Date: Sep 27th, 2006 1:13 AM |
Jmarie,
At your age you have your whole life ahead of you, and if you are choosing open adoption for your little one, you are making a wonderful, loving choice.
You will be ensuring a great life for your baby, keep in touch with her and the family you choose, and still be able to follow your dreams, go to college, whatever you have planned for your life.
You don't say how old your boyfriend is but I am hoping he is also a minor.
Babies are very expensive; formula, diapers, childcare, clothing, medical visits, etc. It would be very difficult for young people to make ends meet for a family of three.
If you are interested in finding a family for your baby or even just chat, my email is lucakady@yahoo.com
Our profile is: http://www.readytoadopt.c
om/carolynandlouis/
Go
d
bless you.
Carolyn ↑ |
| Name: ohiorosejanelleres | Date: Sep 27th, 2006 1:40 AM |
Only bad think Jmarie...you need his signature to release all rights of his for the adoption process.
My name is Janelle.
My husband and I are waiting to adopt.
Here is our info if you want to look into it.
www.babyadoption.zoomshare.com
Please email me: ohiorosejanelleres@yahoo.com
or Yahoo Chat: ohiorosejanelleres
Good Luck! ↑ |
| Name: nikkiandrob | Date: Sep 27th, 2006 8:00 AM |
The choice you're making is a very mature one. But your boyfriend does have to sign off on the adoption, otherwise you and the potential adoptive parents could end up fighting him in court.
Talk to him about it a little more. Maybe he's so wrapped up with the "first born" thing that he doesn't realize how much formula, diapers, wipes, doctor bills and daycare cost. ↑ |
| Name: Dreamer | Date: Sep 27th, 2006 8:53 AM |
Jmarie,
Yes you will have to have his consent for the adoption plan. How old is your boyfriend? Have you thought about a maternaty home, this may give you a place to stay while seeking guidance and support, maybe your boyfriend can be in on some of the sessions. We are also looking to adopt, but your boyfriend needs to be in on the adoption plan. Feel free to email me
girl4jk@yahoo.com ↑ |
| Name: Me | Date: Sep 27th, 2006 9:44 AM |
At the age of 15 you can make up your own mind about you want to do. Have you been emancipated through the courts? I ask this because you state you do not have a mom or dad. If not then you must be in foster care. Therefore you need to consult with your worker. You cannot pull pap's into the picture in this case.
Also, your maturity level is what it is and you have no clue all that you will go through. Please open your phone book and look for adoption help in your community.
Your bf's parents will have all the influence on him. He will make a choice based on what they want.
Good luck. ↑ |
| Name: tamara anderson | Date: Sep 27th, 2006 11:34 AM |
Jmarie,
At your age this is a big choice. And without having a Mom and Dad to turn to I am sure it is eve harder. If you have any questions feel free to ask any of us. Or if you need help finding someone in your area to talk to let us know. One of us may have come in contact with someone close to you that can help.
You BF does have a right to say he wants to keep the baby. But, maybe as you get further along and he sees what all the baby will need daily and how big a responsibility raising a child at that age is. He may change his mind. There are areas on line that can give him more of an idea.
Again feel free to ask any of us questions we will help all we can.
love4baby68@yahoo.com
Good Luck
Tamara ↑ |
| Name: mommyboo | Date: Sep 28th, 2006 1:24 AM |
| Hello J Marie..How are you?I know you have so much on your mind right now.My husband and I would really like to adopt your baby.We would love to have you get to know us.I can tell you that we are a very loving family,We live in the best town in Indiana.We are very active.I really hope you give us a chance to talk more at least online to let us tell you more about us..If you do please email us. noterdamelady@yahoo.com ↑ |
| Name: Canadian-Jen | Date: Sep 28th, 2006 5:21 PM |
| Hello there, how are you doing? I hope you are coping all right, not just with the pregnancy, but emotionally too. As my name suggests, I am Canadian and a Mother of one amazing little boy. I would love for us to get to know each other better. If you would please reply to jen1204ca@yahoo.ca I will get back to you with info about our family, contact infor etc. Take good care of yourself, Jen ↑ |
| Name: AMC | Date: Sep 28th, 2006 6:39 PM |
Jmarie,
You will need your bf's consent to place your child. Perhaps you should contact someone in your area and view all your options. And you need to talk to a counselor. Are you in foster care?
When is your due date? ↑ |
| Name: kimesha | Date: Sep 28th, 2006 9:46 PM |
| im sorry to hear that you have no parents. you should take your boyfriend advise and keep your child.dont give your chlid for adoption because it will hunt you and make you question your self if your child is ok. you will be a good mother and you should have faith in god. try and still go to school and what you can. ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Sep 28th, 2006 10:04 PM |
| kimesha... I don't think it's your place to say what Jmarie should do or not do. I belive that she is a strong young woman who wants to do the best for her child, no matter what she deceides. It takes alot of courage to come on here and ask for advice. ↑ |
| Name: kjoyr814 | Date: Sep 29th, 2006 11:44 AM |
Jmarie:
give us a look also. we are very interested in an open adoption. we would especially like to include the perspective birthmom/dad in our extended family. my oldest's (now almost 15--we adopted him when he was 9) birthmom was 15 when she had him, too. we can be seen at:
http://www.myspace.com/kjoyr814 or you can e-mail me at: kjoyr814@gmail.com
best wishes!
kim ↑ |
| Name: mommyinwaiting | Date: Sep 29th, 2006 7:49 PM |
| Jmarie you have had a lot of replies so far. What you want to do is very brave. When you get farther along, you may feel differently or your boyfriend may change his mind. Little babies are beautiful, however, they are a lot of work with very little sleep. You may find the harder you push against him to give up your baby, he will push back. You might even run into the situation becoming a bigger fight and you won't be able to talk about it reasonably. Seek counseling for both of you, check with your local social services, let your boyfriend know that having someone else there during your discussions might make it easier for him to understand where you are coming from and vice versa. If you both decide to place your baby for adoption, my husband and I are wanting to adopt. Please feel free to contact me at tinasexton@charter.net ↑ |
| Name: Suzanne | Date: Oct 4th, 2006 9:44 AM |
| My fiance' and I are looking to adopt. We've been trying for 2 years with no luck. We're willing to help you through your legal issues with the baby's father as well as help you financially through the adoption process. If you'd like to discuss further, please email me at suzy_g_us@yahoo.com & I'd love to give you move information about myself & my fiance (we'll be married next month). Til then, take care of yourself. Even if you don't choose us, I wish the best for you. ↑ |
| Name: Carolyn | Date: Oct 4th, 2006 1:54 PM |
| Has anyone heard from JMarie ? ↑ |
| Name: Pattyjb | Date: Oct 4th, 2006 3:40 PM |
| Not heard from this person, perhaps this one needs to end as well. ↑ |
| Name: XxAmandaxX | Date: Oct 5th, 2006 3:50 PM |
| My partner and I are looking to raise a child and give it unconditional love. We just bout our house in the country and think it's finally the right time to have a child but niether of us can. Please consider us. We can start chatting and we would be there through it all and always keep you updated on the babies life. Please consider us and make our dream come true ↑ |
| Name: XxAmandaxX | Date: Oct 5th, 2006 3:51 PM |
| my e mail is giggles_alot05@hotmail.com ↑ |
| Name: MsLeyda | Date: Oct 7th, 2006 2:40 PM |
Hi, JMarie,
1st: Good parents constantly question their parenting skills. You are about to be a 1st time mom, its natural to have reservations. I dont think you are ready to make such a permanent decision right now. Because adoption is very real, very permanent & involves alot of other peoples lives, feelings, & emotions. Since you dont have parents, does your BF have parents? How old is your BF? Because sometimes, there are people/relatives who have the opportunity to help you care for you baby or take care of your baby until you finish school.
It seems like your so boggled by the fact that a baby is coming, that your thinking about the here & now & not 5,10,15, or even 30 yrs from now. People mourn & grieve over miscarriages, still births, do you know how you will feel 5yrs from now. You cant stop thinking about when your were pregnant; its apart of you, your history. You can stop memories. I think you should talk to someone, if you dont have anyone. Talk to me. I have helped people w/ their children & greatly financed alot of children over the past 15yrs. I want to help you make an informed, careful decision. My email address is: lady_kt@yahoo.com.
Please also make sure you're drinking at least 20oz of milk each day (this will keep your teeth & bones strong as well as for your baby), eat 1/3 can of spinach each day (this provides iron. lack of iron can be grossly visible in your teeth. ever seen women who have black roots in their teeth. their baby has is pulling all their iron & their not intaking what they should & therefore w/o iron your teeth begin to rot & need to be pulled), take your prenatal pills daily & keep up on your doctors visits.
I wish you the best
Remember if you need anything email me: lady_kt@yahoo.com ↑ |
| Name: ladee | Date: Oct 7th, 2006 3:17 PM |
| you want to give your baby for adoption because its the easy way out for you...take the responsability the same way you both laid without protection or any thought about the consequenses.having a baby and giving them away is not the right thing to do and god will punish you in the long run and you will regret it for the rest of your life!!!!!!!..think about it becuase you will never be in peace with yourself always wondering for ever what tht child looks like and where is he or why did you do it and so on and so on.....i was going to give my son for adoption and at the last minute when i had to sign the papers and hand him to the nurse i said nooooo what was i thinking am i crazy i will always wonder and i deseded to keep chris is his name and now he is 16 years old and i look at him and wonder what would i have done without him in my life and i love him to death and sometime i cry because i cant beleive i even had the thought of giving him away but i didnt...please dont do it think about all the good thing you will miss out and you are not the only teenager who has children be strong and positive its like a puzzle it will all become together as time goes by....by the way good luck on your desicion.and god bless you!!! ↑ |
| Name: Anne | Date: Oct 7th, 2006 4:22 PM |
Ladee this is an ADOPTION forum. Why are you here if you are not in favor of adoption, and telling JMarie that it is the easy way out ?
Negativity is not something these birthmoms need in their lives. ↑ |
| Name: bigangel200624 | Date: Oct 8th, 2006 3:10 AM |
hello my name is marie
im looking to adoption
im am unable to have child now
im am 23 looking to have a baby in my life and in my home soon
so if you pick me i will be a good mom to your child ↑ |
| Name: XxAmandaxX | Date: Oct 9th, 2006 11:02 PM |
Don't listen to negativism or prejudice against you you don't need that at all please if you are looking for real support e mail me so we can talk I would offer a wonderful loving home for your child
giggles_alot05@hotmail.com
you are a wonderful person ↑ |
| Name: mandi7705 | Date: Oct 12th, 2006 8:14 PM |
You are so young and have a lot of life ahead of you. I am 26 and I have a 5 year old. I LOVE being a mom but it is a lot of work. If you choose to out it up for adoption, please let me know. I am unable to have more kids and it is my dream to have more.Call me if you need to talk. You can call collect and I will accept the call
Mandie 320-256-4373 ↑ |
| Name: Pattyjb | Date: Oct 17th, 2006 2:31 AM |
| Anybody heard from this one, or am i blind. ↑ |
| Name: SOOZ | Date: Oct 17th, 2006 10:54 PM |
| I know you are making the right choice. By keeping the baby it would be selfish. You both have to understand you have a whole life ahead of you to enjoy before you even settle down. At you age you haven't found your self or know what the world is even about and you would not be terrible mother to give the baby up. Think about all the people who can not have a baby and have lots of love to give the baby. This is not to say when the baby grows up you can't come into his or her life like most adopted children like to try and find their biological parent(s). I would love to say alot more but you are right if he could only understand. ↑ |
| Name: sdt1977 | Date: Oct 18th, 2006 12:34 PM |
SOOZ, can i ask who you are to tell a girl she is selfish for keeping her baby?
My Lord what is this board coming to, you should be supportive not be telling a girl she is selfish in a very trying time in her life. JMarie I had my first child at 17 was pregnant at 15 and lost the baby, honey whatever you decide please know that there are many people to help you, If you chose to parent find a good parenting counseler and get help there is alot of it out there for teen moms including schools so you can get a diploma while parenting and learning vital skills.
If you chose adoption most good parenting counselers can also help with adoption or have resources for you. Dont listen to the negative do what your heart feels the best with,
Shauna ↑ |
| Name: lldrl | Date: Oct 22nd, 2006 5:42 PM |
| Jmarie if you need to talk you can e-mail me at lldrl@yahoo.com and I will talk to you and things like that. ↑ |
| Name: ticosluv | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 9:42 PM |
Hi Jmarie
My name is Rachel and if you would like to chatt you can e-mail me at jescasmom@yahoo.com, We are looking for a child to love but we are good listeners ↑ |
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